How exactly your body language affects your business.

 

First of all, thanks to everyone who signed up for my Wild Wealth Pilot Programme!  We have just started – if you missed it and want to join in you can, for just the next few days. Sign up here.

Now, what was I doing standing outside a seminar room this week, with my hands on my hips, breathing deeply?  I was practicing a new technique, before entering to practice a pitch to a roomful of entrepreneurial women in Inverness, with a new organization, Investing Women.

Bonnie Clarke of Badenoch and Clark was one of the speakers on the seminar and told us about my gift to you today – this inspiring video by Amy Cuddy. It’s a TED talk, 20 minutes to watch, and it will change your perception of yourself, change how you present yourself, and change your life – if you let it!

So even if you think you haven’t got 20 minutes to watch it right now – I dare you to take the time anyway, it will be worth it!  (And then you can practice how it feels to stand with your hands on your hips for 2 minutes and see what happens!)

Let me know what you think – leave your comments below.

How do you feel when you’re extra generous?

SAM_0809The sign said ‘Admission £2’, and there was an honesty box below in which to leave the cash.  We’d already paid to be in the park. It stopped me, I didn’t want to go into these gardens by having to pay more.  I announced to my friend,

“I’m not going to pay now, I’m going to find out what they are up to in the gardens and then think about it’.

So we progressed round the gardens and I had my first encounter with a robotic lawnmower – it was so funny seeing this little ‘beetle’ trundling noiselessly over the huge expanse of lawn!  The gardens were beautiful, some renovations had taken place and it was really flourishing.

On the way out, I gladly put my £2 into the box, I had so enjoyed the care that had been taken in the new planting. My companion left £2.05.  This impressed me because he was someone who had once been extremely wealthy in monetary terms, but had been made bankrupt and lost everything. But he still had a mindset that allowed him to feel rich and pay that extra 5p.

I liked that generosity, it made me feel good.

I would have preferred that notice to read ‘We would love you to share our gardens, and if on leaving you have also loved them, please do leave £2 towards the upkeep’. More of an invitation than an admission fee.

However, this whole thing got me thinking about how I wanted to be more generous too.  So here is a gift to you:

If you already have a business, or are self-employed, and are not currently working with me,  I’d like to invite you to take part in my new Wild Wealth Programme – for FREE!  Check it out here.

The only thing you have to do is be willing to complete a short feedback form after each class, and if you feel so moved, a testimonial at the end, as this is a pilot programme.  And we will be a small group as I want to be able to interact with each one of you.

The programme start date is Tuesday 30th September, at 7.30pm UK/11.30amPST/2.30pmEST.

If you are interested in this – and I only have 2 places available to subscribers of my newsletter – then please email me immediately:  jane@wildwisdom.co.uk

In the meantime, how can you be extra generous today?  It feels so good to do it, so listen to whatever impulse you have, and then act on it!

The 3 Keys to Touching More Lives with Your REAL Gift

You may well think you know what your real gift is, and you’ll be right because it will be your unique version of what you do. But there is a much bigger, more fundamental REAL gift that needs to shine more fully through what you actually do, which, when it shines, means people can’t help but be attracted to you.

I’ve experienced it in a conversation; in a video; during a healing session; through a treatment; even while passing the time of day. What is it?

SAM_0771Come and find out on my free teleclass on Tuesday 16th September and discover how by practicing The 3 Keys, you will discover your REAL gift and be able to shower the world with your passion, your expertise and your love through attracting more clients, money and then time for yourself.

Now wouldn’t that be just great? Just think how much the world needs what you have to offer! Getting it out there in this fundamental way is essential, even if you are already doing the whole marketing thing ‘right’.

By the end of the class, you’ll:

  • know what the 3 Keys are,
  • have been introduced as to how to apply them,
  • know one step you can take forward in the direction of each key –

and be fully aware of what your REAL gift is! (Hint – everyone has it!)

So please sign up here and forward this link to a friend or two as well – anyone who has a small business, or is a solo professional, will really benefit.

And please share it on Facebook or your favourite social media site too. The more the merrier!

3 hidden home truths about business that hardly anyone talks about

  1. Just because you have a very professional looking website does not mean you are financially successful.

    Not at all, in fact!  I know several people who have fabulous websites and are just scraping by, and some who have pretty ordinary websites, even boring, but are making plenty of money.  Moral: when designing your website, make sure you have all the critical components but don’t spend hours trying to get it ‘right’. Better to apply the maxim ‘done is better than perfect’ (especially as there is no ‘right’ or ‘perfect’ to get).

  2. When someone tells you it will work because it worked for them – the truth is, it might!  And it might not.

    What works for one person does not necessarily work for even one other person. Even if they do exactly what they have been told. Think about it – how on earth can it?  No two minds are alike.  You cannot know what is going on in the mind of another, so regardless of what someone else says (including me) how can you guarantee the results that person can get?

    On the matter of guarantees – many business owners/websites will guarantee results or your money back. Some will give it, some won’t.   They may indeed feel very confident about their product, so confident that they are happy to give money back. But let’s be clear, what’s really going on here is that any concerns you have about paying for the product are being addressed, so that you will buy it.  A guarantee simply helps to make you feel safe, which makes it easier to buy.

  3. Setting goals is not the be-all and end-all.

    It has been proven statistically for a long time now that if you set a goal you are more likely to reach it. For example, when you think about travelling somewhere, that is true. Unless you deliberately set off without any knowledge of where you want to end up, in which case you’re not playing the goal-setting game, then you will by default have chosen a goal. Buy a train ticket to Inverness and you have your goal – to arrive in Inverness.

    However with a business, goals tend to be along the lines of ‘I want 10 more clients’ or ‘My goal is to increase sales by 25%.  Clear, well defined, albeit without a date, which usually goal aficionados ask you also to set.   This is all based on encouraging you to keep taking regular actions which will enable you to arrive at your goal. And there’s nothing wrong with any of this – unless you are not enjoying the process, or discover when you get your goal that actually it’s not quite what it was made out to be.   If that’s what’s happening, then stop playing the goal-setting game. See what happens when you just turn up in life and your business instead. (Yes, that is the extreme opposite, and I don’t necessarily advocate that, but it is interesting to play with this!)  Usually I invite people to set an Intention-Direction (ID) instead.
    You can read more about them here.

    Enjoy!

What’s the secret that could be keeping you stuck?

You know, I love it when people are willing to talk and share about things you are not ‘supposed’ to talk about; I love it when others are willing to be honest and vulnerable. It helps us all then to take down the masks, and stop being ashamed of who we are.  And if there’s one thing that Wild Wisdom is about, it’s about allowing your own wild wisdom to shine out, and be more of who you are, not less!

FringeDown at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival this last weekend, there was a theme in two of the shows I attended . The first was ‘Over It: Death, Anorexia and Other Funny Things’. Given my interest in death lately, and my own experience of the kind of very black humour that can be so hilarious, you might have expected me to see that show. But you might not have known that I’d be interested in anorexia – not because I am or was anorexic, but because I was bulimic in my twenties.

So I know how very courageous it was to be doing a show about this subject, because one of the features of these kinds of illnesses is the shame, and the desire to keep it all hidden and secret.

And sadly, despite the fact that death happens to all of us, and to all our friends and family members, there appears to be a kind of shame attached to it too. As if the longer you live the more successful you have been!  Weird.  But for whatever reason, it’s not talked about enough, not free of embarrassment, not a normal dinner party conversation topic.

So when a young man was doing a stand-up comedy routine about when he was anorexic, closely followed by a slightly older woman doing the same about how death had touched her life, I really wanted to know how it would be.

It was wonderful. Very, very funny. Touching, poignant, and educational to boot.  All hail to these guys, they are doing a wonderful job.  I don’t want to say more about them because it will take away the surprise, but you can read more about them here.

The other show was more famous (had to pay to see that one!) Fascinating Aida are known mostly for their hilarious ‘Cheap Flights’ song. A 3-woman harmony group of Dillie, Adele and Liza, who write their own very amusing lyrics, they’ve been going quite a long time. They’re usually singing about the sorts of things we all recognize but people don’t often mention, and their songs on this set covered ageing, sex, the politicizing of the Brownies (what? yes, really!) and the reason I’m mentioning them here – gender change.

Together, two of them had been writing a song for over ten years, and now the timing was right to introduce us to it. Extremely funny as it was, it brought tears to my eyes too, it being the tale of how Adele had been a girl born into a boy’s body, the agony of that and the eventual relief when she was able to live properly as a woman.

Such courage!  Such guts, gumption and gracefulness from her and her two fellow singers, and from the Over It duo.

So here’s my question to you. Have you a secret that you want to share? Something you’re maybe a tad embarrassed about, or wish wasn’t part of your life?

Because it’s these kinds of things that hold you back. Not just in your work or business, but in life itself. It’s time to stop pretending, because if you want to move forward you have got to put down that piece of luggage that is proving a dead weight.

OK, I’ll share first. Even though I’m not bulimic now, I still sometimes binge eat. I realized this was a problem when a few months after my husband died, I found myself having 4 (largish) chocolate bars, one after another. It was dinner time, I could justify it to myself as a ‘meal’, albeit an unusual one, but really I was just kidding myself. And before you think, ah well, she had a good reason there, I’ve done this on and off without good reasons too!

Not great.  But there you go, that’s what’s now out in the open.  Not proud of it, but in sharing it takes away any shame, guilt, the thought of ‘doing something wrong’. It’s not a very loving act, but feeling bad about that on top is an extra layer definitely not needed.

So come join me – is there anything you’d like to share that could be holding you back? Any piece of luggage you would like to put down by bringing it out into the open?  Please join me and others in the comments box below and let’s begin to raise the lid on keeping secrets that keep us stuck!