Your Comfort Zone is probably very familiar to you – it’s where you feel strong, capable, confident. It’s where you can do good work, know it’s good, and you get good results. It’s also a place free of stress, where you feel secure and content.
It’s a bit like an old familiar jumper that you love wearing, which keeps you warm and cosy.
Have you ever noticed how you discard clothes from time to time? If you have kept old favourites in the back of your wardrobe, and then get them out again and try them on, they can often be out of date, and suddenly you just don’t feel that comfortable in them anymore! How can it be, that item which you so loved, and yet now is so clearly not suitable?
This is what it’s like with your Comfort Zone. From time to time, you will be nudged (or in some cases, propelled) out of your zone of comfort into another area entirely. You might be one of those people who feel as if they are literally growing out of your clothing when this happens – a bit like a snake needing to shed it’s skin. Continue reading →
If you’re married or in a long term relationship, your primary relationship in life is with your spouse /partner. And of course, the strength of that relationship will go a long way to determine your happiness in life.
Vic Conant, the president of Nightingale Conant, publisher of self-development products, wrote an article not long ago called The Keys to Successful Living that focused on things we can do to improve our primary relationship.
Vic acknowledged that a few years ago, he had some problems with his marriage to the point where he was considering other alternatives. But he wanted it to work and decided to try what he called “the 100% commitment experiment,” (not 99%, but 100%). He said in doing so, something magical happened. Continue reading →
“Are you awake?” I heard my husband say quietly. It was 4am.
“Yes,” I replied. “Are you worrying?”
“Let’s throw the I Ching then,” I said. This is the ancient and highly respected Chinese method of divination, one of my middle of the night survival tools, which never fails to calm me down if I am worrying, no matter what about. This time, the hexagram received was number 15, Modesty, and although I hadn’t consulted it with business in mind, later that day I began to reflect on the presence (or not) of modesty in business.
Can you run a business with love? Can those two words even go together?
In fact, this is not a new idea. Reading Chocolate Wars recently by Deborah Cadbury, I was struck by the heartfelt compassion and love at the base of the Cadbury brothers’ chocolate company when they started out. They were a Quaker company in Birmingham, England, alongside many other Quaker businesses at the time (in fact, in the early nineteenth century, around 4000 Quaker families in Britain ran seventy-four banks, and over two hundred major companies, according to spiritual principles). Making money and taking care of their employees were of equal importance to the Cadbury brothers. Continue reading →
One of the values of a conscious, or spiritual, business, is integrity, and it is probably one of your own personal values as well. But what does it really mean, what does it look like in business terms, and how do you use it in your own business?
The word integrity comes from the Latin adjective ‘integer’, meaning whole or complete, and is described in Wikipedia as ‘the inner sense of wholeness deriving from qualities such as honesty and consistency of character’. I’m sure you know this ‘inner sense of wholeness’ – it’s what you feel when things are going well; when you’re feeling connected with a bigger purpose in your life; and when you are looking out to the world around you with eyes of love and compassion. It’s just a good feeling of all being well.
It’s this sense of wholeness that becomes fragmented when you go against your own personal ethics, or those of your business. Continue reading →