This is the kind of thing that is being said around the Moray area this week, after news that RAF Kinloss is to close under the Government cuts. There is an enormous amount of fear around, understandably. When the rug is swept out from under your feet, the first reaction is shock and this is usually accompanied by fear, as all the structures that have held up your life come crumbling down, if not now, then in the near future. Hence the thoughts being expressed above, as people contemplate the loss of their jobs and all that goes with that.
Except that one thing is missing. In the midst of turmoil and upset, there is always a gift. It’s very hard to see it sometimes; and particularly difficult if you have felt very attached to whatever structure is going to crumble. But a gift there will be, if you choose to look for it.
Looking for, and finding, the gift, is what rich thinking is all about. When you’ve gone past the initial shock and horror as you see your carefully planned life come to pieces in front of your eyes, it’s possible to begin to acknowledge that this situation might bring the opening of a door, as well as the closing of one.
Certainly for those who loved their work, this is hard, because a loss always brings grief as well. And there will likely be many feelings being felt as people pass through the stages of loss, commonly known as denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It’s easy to identify these stages, but bear in mind that feelings don’t always progress in a nice straight line from denial to acceptance – sometimes you go in and out and round and round through these stages, before finally being able to rest easy in acceptance.
Typical thoughts of denial, which will be impacting some people right now about the RAF Kinloss situation are:
- this can’t be happening!
- how on earth has this happened to me?
- This is all wrong; it wasn’t meant to be like this
Anger is also likely to be showing it’s face, in the form of thoughts such as
- This is the b….y banks fault!
- I hate this government
- Those rich b……s are the ones that got us into all this
Often denial and anger are partners in crime, alongside their bedmate, blame. People look to blame others when the impact of what is happening to them is just too big to take in. But unfortunately blame is a dead-end alley; there is no way out when you start down this route, other than going round and round and round at the end of the alley, desperately searching for a way out but unable to see that the path to freedom lies in going back where you came from, and taking a new path called responding to the situation, rather than reacting to it. What this looks like from a rich thinking perspective is thoughts like:
- Well, here I am. What can I do about it?
- OK. Where I thought I was going has been stopped. Now what shall I do?
- Could there possibly be something positive in all this?
When you start consciously thinking these kinds of thoughts, then you begin to bring in a chink of light, which shows the way for the next step or two out of the darkness. Just as on a dark country road at night, you can only see as far as your headlights will show, and you trust that the road will continue, you will indeed be shown your way. You will begin to see new opportunities, hear about others who can help you, and tentatively begin to feel hope about your future, instead of fear.
It may be too soon for people in Forres, Kinloss, Burghead, Hopeman, Lossiemouth and the rest of the Moray area to be finding the gift; but it’s never too soon to start on the path of looking.