Anxiously fiddling with my ring, I looked at my watch.
‘What do you think they’re doing?’ I asked my friend. We’d both been in a conference session and had left mid-way, having got a bit bored.
‘I don’t know. But I do know we are suffering from FOMO,’ she replied, with a giggle.
‘FOMO? What’s that?’
‘Fear Of Missing Out!’ and she laughed. So did I. It’s so pervasive, this particular disease.
I’m sure you’ll know what I mean. How often have you sat through something thinking you ‘ought’ to be there, that it’ll ‘get better soon’, or that you just wish you were somewhere different?
Or maybe there’s several options open re a decision; or more than one invitation made to you. The mind goes back and forth re what to do, if anything, and frets away at what you might be missing out on.
‘If you don’t do X then you’ll be behind everyone else’ it warns.
‘I can’t do everything, so how on earth do I know what will be best for me?’ What a dilemma!
‘I might miss the one crucial piece of information – the missing secret to life! That would be so awful’.
And on and on it goes. This is FOMO in action.
It can take different forms too, such as a tapping foot, an air of distraction, a nervous tummy. All of them are symptoms that you have contracted FOMO and need to take an antidote, and quickly.
So what is the antidote, and where do you find it?
It’s called Triple A, and it’s always with you, though sometimes apparently in hiding. There’s 3 parts to the Triple A antidote:
- Awareness (that you’ve got FOMO in the first place – this is essential)
- Acceptance (having been aware, you don’t try to push FOMO away, ignore it or even be judgmental – you simply notice it’s presence )
- Aaaaahhhhh (you breathe deeply, and have a little giggle at yourself)
Each of this pieces is crucial (and the giggle perhaps the most!)
Awareness, because without knowing you’ve caught the disease, there’s nothing you can do about it.
Acceptance, because anything other means you are still caught in the tentacles of FOMO, one of the components of which is self-critical thoughts.
And Aaaahhhh, because without the giggle and the conscious breath, you are in grave danger of a fourth ‘A’, which is …
Spiritual seekers in particular beware of this – it’s so easy to get caught out at the acceptance part of the Triple A and move into Analysis without realizing it. When in fact the only action at this stage is to apply the Aaaahhh, and STOP doing it!
Steer your mind away from what you think you will be missing out on, and simply trust that where you are, what you’re doing, how you’re feeling is perfectly fine, just as it is.
And this is the state that emerging from FOMO gives you – a chance to put into practice the choice to stay on the path of anxiety, worry and fear – or to switch directions and veer onto the path of giggles, self-love and freedom.
So watch out – FOMO comes in many disguises, it’s prevalent amongst society today, and it keeps you stuck! Make sure you have plenty of the antidote handy for when an attack comes along.
PS I’m going to give you a chance to watch FOMO in action! The Radical Income Welcome Toolkit is an amazing bag of tools to help you welcome more income into your life. Check it out here and see if you get FOMO or not. And if you do, apply the antidote, and then make a decision from a place of freedom as to whether or not you’re interested in getting the Toolkit. Yes, this IS a radical method of selling, but then that’s what Wild Wisdom is all about.