My new book Gifted By Grief is out NOW!

Gifted By Grief is finally out! here I am with Robert Holden (who wrote the wonderful foreword):
And here is a doodle of what I feel like doing – standing on the top of a high mountain, telling the whole world about it!

You are getting to hear about it first, as you’re on my mailing list.

(What you also need to know is that next week on 8/9/10th September, the e-book version will be FREE!  This is because I really want to get it out to as many people as possible. (I will send out a reminder re this).But it’s for sale right now, e-book and paperback, so if you can’t wait to take a peek, visit here!

You know, death and dying have never had good press, although that is beginning to change, but grief is lagging behind. That’s a large part of the motivation behind this book – to invite people into my life while it was going on. I hope it will help people become more comfortable with grief, whether they are experiencing it themselves or affected by someone else going through it.

It’s a hugely personal book, and yet oddly, I feel somehow detached from it. Like I just have to serve it.  It’s as if this book has a life of it’s own, and all I have to do is obey it’s instructions. Right now, that’s get this book out to as many people as possible. So that’s what I’m doing 🙂

Please join me by passing on this link to anyone else you know:

Thank you!

I am obsessed – with death.

Ok, I hold my hand up.  I am obsessed.There is only one thing on my mind, it takes up all my thoughts, my creativity and my life at the moment. It’s not a subject that many people search for on Google, nor talk about in ‘polite’ (or even impolite) society. Nor is it even a common topic amongst the holistic or new age community.But it needs to be talked about!  So what is it?

It’s the one thing that affects every single living person or thing on this planet. Yes, you’re right – it’s death.

End of life. Passed on. Departed. Crossed over. Gone to heaven. Taken by the angels. With God.

We have numerous euphemism for this word that so many are so uncomfortable with.

But here it is, it’s my obsession.

Is that because my book Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth is about to be published (Sept 8th, by the way)?  Yes, but not just that.

I really believe that if we all can talk more easily about this thing that affects us all, then we can become less fearful of it. We need to welcome this elephant into the room, well and truly.

Because it is what I am obsessed by right now, you get to hear about it too. It’s a huge topic, and I will be talking about various aspects of this and how it affects our lives for the next few weeks in the run up to my book launch.

But in this post, let’s just begin by looking at some of the different ways that death happens in business. Of course it can be the biggie, when your business goes bust, or you are forced into bankruptcy. But there are numerous other kinds of deaths that happen every day in business, because death is perceived in our culture as an ending (even though it’s also a beginning).

  • When a client ends their contract with you, that’s a death.
  • When you complete a task, that’s the end of it.
  • When someone says no to you, that’s the end of a possibility in that form.
  • When you rebrand, or update your website, you have to say goodbye to the old one. That’s a death too.
If you begin to think about death as an ending, which by its very nature means a beginning too, then perhaps it can become easier to talk about.You have to be sensitiive, of course, if you are talking about the ending or death of a loved one, or a pet. You definitely don’t want to emphasise that there is a beginning just after the death has occurred.But this sensitivity applies to business too.

Next time a client ends with you, take a moment to be with that loss. If a project you are on comes to a close, recognise it, give thanks and be with that for a while. If you’re changing what you are offering to people, there’s room there for an acknowledgement of what went before.

When we are willing to be with what is in the moment, whether that be death, endings or whatever, it’s a lot easier to move forward in the future.

PS. And if you want to be the first to hear about when Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth is ready, sign up here. You’ll get the prologue and first two chapters free as a taster 🙂

We Do Not Die Conference – Findhorn Foundation

Today I have just a short video for you, describing a conference I will be attending here in Findhorn at the end of September. In it, Anita Moorjani (author of Dying to Be Me) describes what I discovered and wrote about in my forthcoming book, Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth.
I’d add one thing – we do not need to wait until we die or have a near death experience to live the life that these events tell us is possible!
We can live that life now!

and get my book when it is out (very soon now!)
Enjoy the video, and if you decide to come, please contact me and let me know so I can meet you.
PS. If you want to discover how to live the kind of life Anita Moorjani is hinting at, that’s what I cover with you in a free Wild Wisdom session – apply for one now, there’s just 2 slots left for this month. Just Contact Me say ‘I’m interested in a Wild Wisdom session!’

Where Does Your Wisdom Come From?

When things are not working, when you’re trying hard, when life just seems to deliver you one setback after another, what do you do?Well, hopefully, you soften and listen to your own wisdom, wild or otherwise!

But where does it come from? What exactly is your wisdom?  And can it really be wild?

Yesterday, after being in the meditation sanctuary early in the morning, someone else who had been there approached me.

“Excuse me, I noticed you scribbling in your notebook in the meditation. What were you writing?”

I was surprised, but delighted to be asked. “It’s wisdom words that come from a different place than my personality,” I replied, “I sort of hear them often in meditation, and so I thought  it would be a good idea to write them down. It sets me up for the day; sometimes problems get resolved; other times I gain an insight that allows movement in a situation. I never know what will happen.”

She looked bemused. “Try it,” I encouraged her. “Just get very still inside and see what happens.”

Afterwards I reflected on where this had come from in my own life, and how I’d written about it in my soon to be published book, Gifted By Grief. Here’s an extract:

For many years, since I’d moved through the grief about not being able to have children with Philip, I’d had access to the ‘still, small voice within.’ I’d been introduced to this back in 2003, when I was exploring my psychic abilities. Out walking one day, I’d been railing against not having a family of my own, and out of the blue came the words, ‘You were not meant to have children this time round. Your path is purely a spiritual one.’ The words were so clear, I almost looked round to see who had spoken. They brought with them immense relief, peace, and a relaxing into what my life actually was in that moment. I wasn’t shocked, just intrigued. Over time, and with practice, this ‘voice’ spoke many, many wise words – most often when I sat down with a pen and paper in hand.
Your wisdom also comes from another place than your personality, or your mind. It might indeed be wise to say it comes from ‘beyond’.Do you hear it in the form of words? Or do you see images, feel sensations, or sense knowings?

How often do you pay attention to it, or act on its advice? If you’re in a pickle of some kind, I can guarantee this will be the one thing that will get you out of it, for it’s only when we quieten down enough to realize that who we are really IS the wisdom itself, and not the bodymind personality, that access is gained to this source.

Try it next time you’re needing to solve a problem, change a situation or just want some clarity. Stop whatever you’re doing and soften. Ask for insights. Wait. Discover what is wanting to be found.