Here it is:
You are getting to hear about it first, as you’re on my mailing list.
You know, death and dying have never had good press, although that is beginning to change, but grief is lagging behind. That’s a large part of the motivation behind this book – to invite people into my life while it was going on. I hope it will help people become more comfortable with grief, whether they are experiencing it themselves or affected by someone else going through it.
It’s a hugely personal book, and yet oddly, I feel somehow detached from it. Like I just have to serve it. It’s as if this book has a life of it’s own, and all I have to do is obey it’s instructions. Right now, that’s get this book out to as many people as possible. So that’s what I’m doing 🙂
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It’s the one thing that affects every single living person or thing on this planet. Yes, you’re right – it’s death.
End of life. Passed on. Departed. Crossed over. Gone to heaven. Taken by the angels. With God.
We have numerous euphemism for this word that so many are so uncomfortable with.
But here it is, it’s my obsession.
Is that because my book Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth is about to be published (Sept 8th, by the way)? Yes, but not just that.
I really believe that if we all can talk more easily about this thing that affects us all, then we can become less fearful of it. We need to welcome this elephant into the room, well and truly.
Because it is what I am obsessed by right now, you get to hear about it too. It’s a huge topic, and I will be talking about various aspects of this and how it affects our lives for the next few weeks in the run up to my book launch.
But in this post, let’s just begin by looking at some of the different ways that death happens in business. Of course it can be the biggie, when your business goes bust, or you are forced into bankruptcy. But there are numerous other kinds of deaths that happen every day in business, because death is perceived in our culture as an ending (even though it’s also a beginning).
- When a client ends their contract with you, that’s a death.
- When you complete a task, that’s the end of it.
- When someone says no to you, that’s the end of a possibility in that form.
- When you rebrand, or update your website, you have to say goodbye to the old one. That’s a death too.
Next time a client ends with you, take a moment to be with that loss. If a project you are on comes to a close, recognise it, give thanks and be with that for a while. If you’re changing what you are offering to people, there’s room there for an acknowledgement of what went before.
When we are willing to be with what is in the moment, whether that be death, endings or whatever, it’s a lot easier to move forward in the future.
But where does it come from? What exactly is your wisdom? And can it really be wild?
Yesterday, after being in the meditation sanctuary early in the morning, someone else who had been there approached me.
“Excuse me, I noticed you scribbling in your notebook in the meditation. What were you writing?”
I was surprised, but delighted to be asked. “It’s wisdom words that come from a different place than my personality,” I replied, “I sort of hear them often in meditation, and so I thought it would be a good idea to write them down. It sets me up for the day; sometimes problems get resolved; other times I gain an insight that allows movement in a situation. I never know what will happen.”
She looked bemused. “Try it,” I encouraged her. “Just get very still inside and see what happens.”
Afterwards I reflected on where this had come from in my own life, and how I’d written about it in my soon to be published book, Gifted By Grief. Here’s an extract:
How often do you pay attention to it, or act on its advice? If you’re in a pickle of some kind, I can guarantee this will be the one thing that will get you out of it, for it’s only when we quieten down enough to realize that who we are really IS the wisdom itself, and not the bodymind personality, that access is gained to this source.
Try it next time you’re needing to solve a problem, change a situation or just want some clarity. Stop whatever you’re doing and soften. Ask for insights. Wait. Discover what is wanting to be found.