Holding on, resisting, pushing away – anything other than accepting is going to cause problems. Why? Because stress and unhappiness is caused by these actions in themselves – not by what you are holding onto, resisting or pushing away, even though it appears that way. Letting go brings a breath of fresh air, movement and possibility.
It seems that accepting you are dying, or that a loved one is dying, must be by far the most challenging thing to accept in life, and I’d agree. But this doesn’t mean that accepting ‘what is’ is much easier in any other situation. That’s because, although it appears to be the circumstances that are the difficult things to accept, it is in fact how much we push away what is presented to us in each moment, that really causes the problem. The situation itself simply is – it just exists. Whether you like it or not is another matter, and that’s where the judgment comes in, and trouble begins. Continue reading →
It’ s funny, isn’ t it, how the human race behaves as if it knows what is going to be happening from minute to minute. Most of us do this, most of the time. It is understandable of course, as there is a certain rhythm to life in that the sun rises and sets, the trees lose their leaves and then they grow again, and the sea continues to roll onto the shores of the beach, wave after wave. There are variations of course, in that sometimes we don’ t see the sun for the clouds, the leaves may fall earlier or later, and the waves may be bigger or smaller. But on the whole, there is some sense of
So I think we can forgive ourselves for behaving as if we know what is going to happen in the next minute! The trouble with this idea only comes when plans are made and then circumstances occur to thwart us in the delivery of the plans. Continue reading →