The One Mindset Shift That Will Set You Free

Wheeee! Life can be such a rollercoaster sometimes, and especially business life, where the ups and downs often get reflected in your bank balance, the number of sales you make, or the amount of customers or clients you have.

Just as on a rollercoaster, you sometimes like the thrilling feeling, at other times it can feel dangerously close to the edge and even tip over into terror occasionally. That’s when the wheeee! turns into aaaaagh!

The intention with a rollercoaster ride of course is to experience the thrills of the ups and downs, but the trouble with experiencing your business as a ride like this is that ultimately it is exhausting (imagine being on a real rollercoaster for longer than just the usual few minutes).

It means you’ll be regularly challenged with thoughts and feelings about the state of your business at any one time, so your emotions reach highs and lows too. And of course, you never get to experience the pleasure in taking a slower, more balanced ride, not on rollercoaster tracks, but simply winding through the landscape of life, enjoying what sights, sounds, and experiences are presented to you.

I was thinking about this the other day in our Mistress Mind group, where we spend some of the time celebrating something that has happened. I realized I felt uncomfortable only celebrating the so-called ‘good’ things, which is what is traditionally thought of when the word celebration is mentioned.

For example, we tend not to celebrate divorce, but we do marriage. In business, celebration is encouraged when you sign up a new piece of work, take on a new client or increase your revenue significantly; but not at all when your sales are down one month, or a member of staff makes a mistake, or you lose clients.

In the Mistress Mind group that day, I stated I was going to celebrate mistakes as well as the so-called ‘good’ things.

I want to celebrate the fact that I didn’t arrange a specific time to talk to a prospective client; I just forgot and am now waiting for her to come back to me.”

Why is an apparent mistake a cause for celebration?

Because it’s how we learn – by making mistakes – not by when things go swimmingly well.

Just think about it, you learn most when things don’t go according to plan and you either have to adjust your plans, put your creative hat on and discover how to solve whatever challenge is in your way, or you get an opportunity to perfect your craft or offering, at the very least.

All of these so-called mistakes have in fact become the grist to your mill – which is why you are the particular person you are right now.

And that is why people want to work with you, over and above others – because of who you are.

It takes a bit of an adjustment to choose to celebrate your mistakes, because the initial reaction is more likely going to be to criticize yourself, fall into despair or disappointment, or to want to run away and give it all up (yes, I know, I’ve been there!) And I am not advocating dismissing any of these feelings, they have their place too.

But perhaps there is also room for seeing that the truth is you don’t actually know whether or not this apparent mistake might not be the one thing that sets you off on a different track.

It might be the one thing that becomes the inspiration for a set of events that brings in more of what you want, or that simply helps you to re-align yourself with your true purpose.

All sorts of possibilities are available when you allow space for that.

None are possible when you have judged in your mind that things are all awful.

It reminds me of a saying that a good friend Barbara (of www.barbaraswetina.com) said to me once:

“I cannot know that this is not the next step in my liberation.”

Ask yourself this the next time something doesn’t go according to plan.

So I invite you this week to think about some of the apparent mistakes you have made in your life, and then identify what other things that you liked better happened as a result of those mistakes. Those so-called ‘good’ things will always be there, even in the face of the most horrendous situations.

Then the next time you find yourself having made a mistake, choose to celebrate the learning from it, choose to trust that something else beneficial (which could be another ‘mistake’) will come from this, and that all is well.

It’ll help with how you feel about your business, if for no other reason than it feels better to be in the ‘all is well’ space than the ‘all is awful’ place!

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