Vic Conant, the president of Nightingale Conant, publisher of self-development products, wrote an article not long ago called The Keys to Successful Living that focused on things we can do to improve our primary relationship.
Vic acknowledged that a few years ago, he had some problems with his marriage to the point where he was considering other alternatives. But he wanted it to work and decided to try what he called “the 100% commitment experiment,” (not 99%, but 100%). He said in doing so, something magical happened. He began to look for the positives and began to enjoy his wife more each day. She naturally responded by being much nicer to him. He said it began an amazing transformation; and today, after 36 years of marriage, they’ve never been happier.
As Vic discovered, there is a remarkable difference between a commitment of 99% and 100%. At 100%, you are seeing your problems all the way through to their solutions. At 99% we can still find a way to take the path of least resistance…and usually do. And guess what? “The 100% commitment experiment” not only works for marriage…it also works for your business.
Commitment does not necessarily mean you have to work or try harder. It relates more to your focus and resolve: to focus on what you have said you want to create in your business; to regular, consistent practice of the tools that can support you in this; to the language you use about yourself, to yourself and about your business; to honouring yourself in the best possible way so that you can allow the heart of your business to shine through.
What you say you want starts in your imagination; each time you find yourself wobbling or thinking something like “I’m struggling”, or “If only I’d chosen an easier way to earn a living”, or “I love what I do but I’m not having the success I really want.” If this is happening then bring your focus to what you originally said you wanted in your mind’s eye and spend some time re-choosing it.
It is so tempting to change the goal when it seems as if you can see nothing but obstacles; but it’s not the goal that needs changing, it’s more often the path you’re taking to get to the goal. Remember that although in your mind’s eye and often in your business plans, everything happens in a nice neat tidy straight line from A (where you are now) to B (where you want to go to), actually it rarely happens like that. It’s much more common that you get to where you want to go to by a very circuitous route. Keeping your inner eye focused on the end point will help you to commit 100%; and that in itself will remind you to look for the positive aspects in each situation you find yourself in.