And it is an infection – like a virus, it spreads easily, and you can catch it from a variety of sources, such as a gloomy friend speaking of how awful their life is; a depressing report in the paper; news bulletins full of tragedy; meetings that focus on not what can be done, but on complaining, or even just sharing in a manner that is irresponsible.
This is not to say don’t feel your feelings. No point in just sweeping them under the carpet. But once you’ve done the feeling painful stuff, allocate at least as much time, if not a lot more, to allowing the joyful feelings. Be around people who are uplifting to be with in their conversation; read Positive News www.positivenews.co.uk; switch off the TV or radio news; focus on the enormous amount of goodness there IS in the world, and in your world.
You know, I trained personally with Louise L. Hay, guru of positive thought, way back in 1990, and then spent a whole lot more years running groups and seeing clients, based on her work. People often asked me what it was like to be an expert on positive thinking. I’d always reply “Well, just because I know a lot about that, means that I also know a lot about negative thinking too”. Yes, it’s true!
So if you’re reading this and you find yourself thinking, ‘yeah, yeah’, or ‘I can’t do that’ or even just being a bit cynical (and let’s face it, we all do this, even if we live in a loving and supportive community), then remember: if you’re brilliant at doing poor thinking you’re also able to be brilliant at rich thinking. Your choice. And you know what? It’s just a decision, to be made day after day, hour after hour. Easier said than done, of course, but one makes me and others feel good and the other doesn’t – and I know which one I prefer. What about you?